Being an option should never be an option

I was out exercising this morning and I had a download about todays subject. When you're in a relationship with a narcissist you will always be an option. A narcissist is always looking for an ego boost; therefore, they are always seeking supply. Narcissists keep exes on deck so they can hit them up when you have a disagreement or if you're not giving them enough attention. They cannot validate themselves and are always in need of validation from different sources. It doesn't matter how much you pour into these individuals, because it will never be enough. Basically, you are pouring into a bucket with a hole in it. In this type of relationship you will never find peace and security, and most of us empaths and codependents are looking for just that. We want a safe place to return to, and we want loyalty, but you will never get these things from a narcissist. We must learn to validate and love ourselves, so we can attract what we are. If we want peace, security, and loyalty, we have to establish these things within ourselves first. Once we build up our own self worth we will attract others that reflect these qualities that we want, and we will discourage narcissist from approaching us, since they know we will not settle for being an option or having someone waste our time. Don't settle, because being an option should never be an option.